Updated: Mar 22, 2020
How many times have you done something and realized it was the wrong thing, or said something and wish you hadn't, or didn't do something and wished you had?
Nodding your head to one or all of these?
Oh boy; I've made a couple of biggies this week and really upset some people and feel just awful!
I'm feeling more than a little scattered...I took deep breath and a moment, and asked myself some questions:
Did I mean to to what I did?
Was I intentionally being disrespectful
Do they have a reason to be upset with me?
Can I make amends and if I can, will they accept them?
Can I be OK if they won't accept my apology?
Would I be willing to forgive them, if that happened to me?
Am I gracious and understanding when someone makes a mistake that involves me?
Unfortunately, we're all humans and humans screw up sometimes.
Ask anyone who knows me and you'll find I'm actually quite practiced at it!
Then I remembered something very important!
I'm still grieving the loss of my beloved friend, Linda!
I help other people every day, deal with their losses, but sometimes, I just plain forget that I still have some pretty raw emotions floating somewhere just below the surface...
Some things to consider:
When we're grieving, we're more likely to make mistakes
Our heads aren't in the game in the same way
It's time to cut ourselves some slack and be a little more loving to US
Forgive yourself for not being perfect!!!
Say you're sorry and be prepared for someone to NOT accept your apology; they don't have to
They're probably seeing things from a different perspective